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[whitereflection]

cacklesthewitch, you're an absolute sweetheart. Thanks for the virtual gift ♥ (Btw, still writing, or do you need that puppy-eyed!Sam icon again? :) )


Dad got some things straightened out with my older cousin, I guess. Doesn't make it so I can shrug off the way some things have been, but at least can set it aside and not be some frothing-at-the-mouth rabid person. Though by 'straightened out'...and this is still what bothers me. That other day, this 'friend/neighbor' of my aunt's had been in again, and was behaving badly. Monopolized the chair by my aunt's bed for hours, and Mom had to *ask* this gal if she could sit there awhile. Kept squeezing my aunt's arm (where she's bruised and swollen from edema) even after we'd asked her to just carefully hold her hand. Had a *snit* when my Dad asked her to leave the room with us--ALL of us--because the nurses had to move/clean up my aunt (you know, give the woman some fucking privacy and dignity, you know, even if she's not conscious or semi-conscious?). This gal called my older cousin, *made up lies* about how we'd kicked her out of the room and such. And my older cousin believed her, until Dad straightened her out about what had happened. Believed some delusional bitch without question, without checking with family first. Thus, what really bothers me about the small town (Seward/Lincoln) crowd vs. us 'city' (Omaha) types, the us/them I've been feeling developing.

Anyway. Least it's straightened out, the truth explained. Can set it aside even if I'm not exactly letting it or some other things go. But that 'friend'...several of us want to outright say she can't come back to visit, but Dad wants to allow it so long as he can tell her (and this woman isn't young, she's late twenties, I think) she *has* to behave and follow family wishes, and *share* the space. But to be honest, knowing that this gal's coming back on Tuesday--Mom and I won't go up that day, unless things are at a very bad point.

But yeah. People. I really, really do not like a lot of people out there. Especially thoughtless, self-centered, selfish people who treat a severely ill individual like they're a zoo exhibit rather than a loved one.


Anyway again. I want to hear what my aunt's liver values are today, because she was seeming a bit improved yesterday. Not tremoring almost at all, and though still almost always sleeping, lights being turned on over her bed will wake her and she's sometimes opening her eyes for moments again. Also back to speaking single word or short sentence responses periodically (well, as of yesterday afternoon) those times she does wake.

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[http://users.livejournal.com/_amalthea/]

I friended you just while ago so this situation with your aunt isn't all that clear to me, but I've noticed that it affects you so much and I just wanted to know that I'm sending all my support to you and hope that everything will turn out the best. *hugs*

[whitereflection.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much ♥ And sorry that there's been such medical drama since we friended. ^^; But just a quick thing of what I've been going on about so much--it's my favorite aunt, my Dad's younger sister. She's had cancer the past decade, and this was one more in a series of surgeries, and for some reason she suffered kidney/respiratory failure as she started recovery. This sort of complication is something that is normally very close to 100% fatal--but she astounded her doctors by starting to improve a few days after when by all indications she should have died. It's been a lot of ups and downs in the couple weeks since--very roller coaster and two steps forward/one step back.

*hugsback* But thanks again for the thoughts and support.

[joseishijin.livejournal.com]

When my brother was at his worst, friends, neighbors, and distant relatives all showed up at the hospital and very soon thereafter, we started having similar problems. We made a (hard) decision and kicked everyone out except for the immediate family. We didn't want to, but it made everything so much better and calmer. I mean, my brother had no idea who was there and later he told me he wouldn't have cared - he was so out of it, he only remembers little snippets of that time. He is glad that only a few people saw him when he was like that.

A lot of people got mad, my sister nearly got in a fistfight in the hallway, and to this day there are still a lot of hard feelings all around, but at the time, we were just trying to make it through the day, you know? Give my brother and my parents (who were taking it very, very hard) some peace.

[whitereflection.livejournal.com]

I really appreciate knowing someone out there who's gone through a similar situation and knows what it's like. *hugs you* It just feels so freaking crazy at times, and I just boggle at it. At the least it helps to even know if we do have to restrict visitors (and I will band together with my Mom and stepmother to demand it if my aunt gets worse again), that we're not being out of line to do so. The patient needs a calm environment to rest, and for heck's sake, the family's got it tough enough without people causing more strife to load them down. Oy.

♥ And I didn't get a chance to comment on it, but fffffffff, I wish I could hand you another job like *right now*. Your workplace just makes me want to tear my hair out at the stupid and unfair that goes on. You deserve so much better.

[joseishijin.livejournal.com]

No prob. *hugs*

It's a sucky situation and you all have to make the best decisions for your aunt, NOT neighbors or cousins twice removed. They may get their panties in a twist, but too bad. That period in my life really opened my eyes. And it's not that these folks are bad, per se - they just don't think.

Aw, THANK YOU!!! I have always tried to keep a sense of humor about my job, but I think this is it. I am working on my resume (half-heartedly, but at least it's a start).

[cacklesthewitch.livejournal.com]

Aw, don't mention it.

It's too bad some people (like this neighbour) think it's okay to behave like that (or, more likely, don't think about their behaviour at all). I don't blame you for wanting to avoid her.

[whitereflection.livejournal.com]

♥ That icon ♥ I swear, that movie is one of the sweetest ever. I think when I can have a day where I don't go out at all, I'm going to have to rewatch Totoro, Whispers of the Heart, and maybe others. Need some Miyazaki therapy. ^^;

[akintay.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, hon. You'd think in times like that people would try to support each other and not create more drama. *hugs*